Question......do all men really cheat? All of them? Every single one? Until recently I didn't think I had ever been cheated on. I mean really cheated on, not just "chillin' with someone" or getting "too flirty." I mean straight inserting your piece into someone else's pie.
Maybe I was trying to live in a fairy tale world or something. It's a really humbling experience. It's like you think "that'll never happen to me" or my man is "better than those other niggas." Please, everybody, men and women, have the capability of being classified as "not shit." All they need is the situation.
But seriously though, if you are committed to someone that "situation" shouldn't come up right? Don't you owe it to your partner to not even be associated with those types of environments? Or is it just if you're married? I've heard a lot of people say it's not that deep if you aren't married. Those were mostly old school people saying that type of thing anyway. Plus if you and your mate have that agreement then that's fine. But if not then you better be making the right choices.
Then after the cheating, what do you do? How do you stop thinking about it? If you forgive the person then you owe it to them to try and move forward right? But you really shouldn't owe them shit. They are the ones who made the mistake.
Being the person who cheated and the person who got cheated on couldn't be more on opposite ends of the spectrum, when it comes to emotions anyway. The person who did it can be secure immediately after. They know the situation and have nothing to worry about. The victim is the one who has to constantly worry. Are they still cheating? Do I know the person? Was it only one person? Did they protect themselves properly? The list of questions can only go on.
Not to mention the humiliation. Do you look stupid for accepting it and forgiving that person? Do you look like a weakling? Or do you look like a forgiving person with a big heart, who understands that mistakes happen? Idk. I guess it just depends on the circumstances.
-- Posted from my iPhone
Just wondering if you went to Missouri State. Ironically, my daughter just got out of one emotionally disturbing relationships with who we thought "was" one of the nicest guys. Found out he was a big player, liar, cheater, deceiver, heartbreaker. Ironically we live in St. Louis and the "Cheater" (which is actually too nice of a word) is heading down to Missouri State for college in Jan. 2010. I wish I could give all the girls a heads up. Everyone thinks he is the nicest guy. Actually he is just a man whore. I am emotionally drained from this, I can't imagine how my daughter feels. She would NEVER take him back. I love this blog. Maybe you should post some warning signs for others. My daughter is just 18, I hope she is not scarred for life....
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for not responding to this comment earlier! I have really been neglecting this blog :(. Yes I went to Missouri State I graduated in 2008, there were a lot of manwhores there LOL. I know your daughter probably feels like trash right now, there is nothing like being 18 and in love. Hell Im 24 and I felt like trash when it happened to me. But she'll learn so much from it and she is lucky she found out the truth b4 things went too far with a pregnancy or engagement or something like that. If I could change one thing about my college experience it would be that I would focus more on school and enjoying life than boys. I always had a boyfriend and looking back I missed out on a lot because of it. Tell her to do her! Boys (well men) will be there after graduation!!!
ReplyDeleteThe initial cost for these LED bulbs is high but
ReplyDeletethey will pay back your investment within a few months.
There is no time to be preoccupied by a missed call on an unattended phone.
There's a color screen option which works the same way as the light bulb but has less of a harsh glare.
Here is my blog led light